Self Care

Okay, by now the kids are most likely back to school, or very close to being back to school.  Obviously, I love my kids, as I am sure you all do as well.  But it is also okay to appreciate some alone time!  Even if you work (like I do), maybe you can get a few moments here or there, while they are at school and take advantage of that time!!  Maybe you have babies still, so you don’t really get the time to yourself, and I get that.  But if you have the opportunity, a grandma or aunt who wants or is willing to watch your little one for an hour or two, take them up on it!!  If you have a preschooler, they are there a few hours each week, take advantage of that time.

What do I do, you are asking?  Sometimes we put our lives on hold because we are taking care of our little ones, but now is the time to get back in touch with yourself!!  Even if you only get an hour (heck, even if it is just 5 minutes), take that time and really do something YOU want to do.  If you aren’t sure what that is anymore, try some different things.  Do some self exploration and figure it out.  Do you enjoy coffee, really enjoy your coffee in peace in the morning.  Do you like to read, then sit down and read a little.  I would recommend whatever you do, do it completely.  Do not watch TV while checking your emails and Facebook.  That is not taking time for yourself.  You will not feel “recharged” after doing that.  Not saying you can’t do those things, but just choose one at a time.  If there is a certain television show you don’t ever get to watch, then watch it, but just watch it.  Don’t be doing other things while you are watching it.  For me, when my kids get on the bus, I come back in the house and turn off the cartoons and put on Good Morning America for a few minutes.  I then feel like an adult!!  Even if I have to get ready for work, I try to take just a few minutes to really watch it and pay attention to it.

If you get the whole day to yourself while your kids are in school, more power to you!!  But, I know a lot of moms who fall into the trap of, “I have to be productive and get things done.”  Yes, I know, housework needs done, and it is easier to do when the house is quiet and empty.  I am not saying not to do it at all, but it is also okay to take a little bit of that quiet time and enjoy it.  You are allowed to enjoy it.  Remember that, give yourself permission that it is okay to take time for yourself.  Believe me, you will be recharged and ready to face the world again.  The housework will always be there, don’t fall into the trap of “just let me finish this, and this, and then I’ll sit down.”  Because most likely, you won’t get to taking that time for yourself.  I know we have all heard it, and it is hard to accept.  Especially as a woman, we are nurturers, we want to take care of everyone and everything, but what happens when we are doing that?  We lose our self in the process!!!  So here you go, this is what I want you start accepting, even though we have heard it numerous times, I want it to sink in this time.  MAKE YOURSELF A PRIORITY.  There, I said it.  I know, it seems selfish, doesn’t it.  But it isn’t!!  You need to get past that it is selfish.  It is not selfish, you need to take care of yourself, or you won’t be able to do all the other things that you need to do.  So to be a good mom, wife, friend, daughter, and everything else, we need to take care of our self.  Give yourself permission, it is okay, in fact, it is necessary!!!

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Author: Amanda Ranalli LPC

I am a Licensed Psychotherapist with a Private Practice and 20 years of experience.

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