Allow yourself to be kind to yourself.

So have  you ever paid attention to how you talk to yourself?  Are you kind to yourself, or not so much?  Most of us talk to our self, in a way that we would never talk to a friend, or even an acquaintance!  We are usually pretty negative when we talk to our self and even down right mean!  So take some time and really pay attention to how to talk to yourself.  If you notice you are using really negative language, commit to yourself that you are going to work on changing that.  There are certain words that are more negative than others, think about it.  I always use the example of “fat.”  “Fat” is a negative word, it holds lot of negativity around it.  Now if you say to yourself, “I’m so fat,” think about how you can change that thought.  You don’t necessarily need to go to the complete opposite and say, “Oh, I’m so thin.”  But, you can change the word, so it is not so negative.  What really can help is to get specific.  With weight, put a number on it.  “Ok, so I weigh 200 pounds, and I really wished I weighed 150 pounds.” Or you can use inches or size of clothes.  See how when you get really specific, it can take some of that negative feeling away from it.  It is still being honest and truthful, but not as negative.  This all connects to our self esteem.  How we talk to our self is going to be connected to how we feel about our self.  Be kind to yourself, be your own friend, it is okay!!  FB_IMG_1502327578202

Author: Amanda Ranalli LPC

I am a Licensed Psychotherapist with a Private Practice and 20 years of experience.

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